Shedding Resentment

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Shedding Resentment

Shedding Resentment
October 06
14:56 2016

Have you ever given so much of yourself that you felt depleted?

Have you ever brushed your own needs or interests aside for people who would never do the same for you?

If the answer is in the affirmative – chances are that you feel a sense of emptiness. It is possible to be too altruistic. If you do not take care of your own needs – you will find that your altruism will not stop the seeds of resentment from taking fruition in your heart. Resentment is often caused by overcompensating or by allowing someone to distract you from what matters.

Understand that while it is important to be caring and considerate towards other people – it is even more important to care for yourself. If you always allow other people to take priority and resign yourself to the periphery – you will not be happy. You will always hearken back to what you invested and feel drained. There are a plethora of self-help books that emphasise taking caring of yourself, but sometimes we mistake this to mean paying heed to our ego. It is not your ego that needs massaging or lifting. You need to take care of your inner being. When you give value to your own dreams and emotional needs – it rejuvenates the soul and this in turn allows you more energy to give back to the people in your life. If you neglect yourself and allow others to drain your thoughts, time and energy – you will never find inner peace. Do not court resentment by side lining yourself.

So start again. Grasp your goals by focusing on the pivotal steps you need to take. Take time out to appreciate your thinking time. In order to close the door to possible residual resentment, you need to learn from your mistakes and move on. Remember you cannot blame anyone else for not protecting your space and sanctuary. That is your responsibility.

As the winter attempts to shed the last residue of summer, you need to let go of your disappointments and embrace the beauty of the present. Life is a perpetual learning process. It teaches you much about others, but even more about who you are and what makes you content.

By Mussarrat Shaheen
© 2016

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  1. Jane
    Jane October 06, 16:56

    This article is so refreshing. Life is a learning process indeed and the disappointments can bring u down but positivity is key.

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  2. Momo
    Momo August 27, 08:18

    Rings true…so right!

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